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November 14, 2015

It’s a crisp autumn morning, and Aunt Pythia is deeply enjoying snuggling into her La-Z-Boy whilst wearing her cottony and fluffy hoodie, and she’s looking forward to a good long chat. She’s drinking coffee but she’s willing to make you tea if that’s your preference. In any case, make yourself comfortable, Aunt Pythia has some explaining to do.

Honestly I like both.

Honestly I like both.

Confession the first: recently Aunt Pythia has been going on somewhat of a craft binge. She’s taken to sewing lined curtains for her New York apartment, and the learning curve for someone who has never successfully done more than seam pants is steep. So far one prototype, a lopsided affair that looks much more 1970’s than she had envisioned. Stay tuned for updates, but please also make it your plan to sympathize with uneven hemming and puckers for a little while. Solidarity, people.

Also! Aunt Pythia readers, another confession/ brag. About a month ago Aunt Pythia received an email requesting her presence for an underwear modeling shoot, and she said yes (exact quote from CEO Julie at the shoot: “nobody has ever said yes that quickly. Most women have a million questions.”). It’s safe to say, dear readers, that the only question Aunt Pythia had about the underwear modeling gig was, why did it take you so long to ask me?

Two reasons this story might matter to you: first, you can check out the pictures here – please note Aunt Pythia’s hair goes with her shirt – and second, you can get an “Aunt Pythia discount” on Dear Kate underwear for women by using the discount code AuntPythia30, good through November 30th.

Now that all has been revealed! Aunt Pythia is getting on with the important stuff: your problems, ethical dilemmas, and general questions. Let’s do this, people! And after we do that, please don’t forget to:

ask Aunt Pythia any question at all at the bottom of the page!

By the way, if you don’t know what the hell Aunt Pythia is talking about, go here for past advice columns and here for an explanation of the name Pythia.


Dear Aunt Pythia,

In light of the discussion started by “Woman not at a bar”, I’ve been thinking about what women say about where it is OK to express romantic and sexual interest. I have been repeatedly told that men shouldn’t approach women they don’t know, because that shows that they only care about her looks.

Also, that a man shouldn’t approach a woman at a recreational activity (sports team, crafts, class, etc), because if she says no she might feel uncomfortable or scared and feel forced to drop out of the activity. One shouldn’t approach a woman at work, because that implies not taking her seriously as a professional. And approaching a close friend risks ruining the friendship.

All of these make sense to me individually, and if a woman says that something makes her uncomfortable I believe her, but they don’t seem to leave much room. Sometimes people tell me to wait for a woman to show clear signs of interest before making a move, but that seems to mean waiting forever (twice in the last ten years for me; one was a student in a class I was teaching, and the other one turned out not to be interested after all).

So is there any way to approach a woman that doesn’t make her feel threatened if she isn’t interested? And if not, perhaps it’s time for women to switch to making the first move as a rule?

A Single Heterosexual Adult Male Experiencing Distress


You had me until the student in your class. I don’t think it’s ever ok to “make a move” on a student in your class. I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you meant you waited at least long enough so that she wasn’t a student anymore. That’s a requirement. But let’s put it aside. It’s over there, next to the sugar bowl.

Here’s the thing. I think you might have gotten bad advice, but I think it happened before your scrutiny of the situation set in.

Because yes, if you assume the set-up is, “I approach a woman, not knowing if she likes me at all, and I make my moves” then I agree, it’s really hard to know when that’s appropriate. In fact it might never be. But the good news is, that’s not how it actually works. Or at least I’ve never seen that approach work unless it’s at a bar or a party and everyone’s incredibly drunk and horny, and even then it often doesn’t work.

What actually works, IRL, is that you slowly orbit around someone that you’re interested in, and you pick up on positive feedback, and you test things out with the other person, and after a bit of back-and-forth, and some body language, and after she laughs at your jokes, and you laugh at hers, and after you both figure out how to spend more time together without making it seem like it’s on purpose, then you find yourselves “Interested” with a capital I. It’s a whole lot of very ambiguous, somewhat ambiguous, then not-so-ambiguous communication leading up to the first “move.”

It’s called flirting. It’s fun, and it’s the number one way you determine whether someone wants to date you. I suggest you practice doing it, because it’s basically a requirement for someone who wants to avoid the above misunderstandings.

Why do I say that? Because if you’re trying to find a girlfriend in your native environment, then yes, it’s generally speaking not appropriate unless the flirting has established it the two of you as “a possible thing.” You cannot abruptly “make a move” on someone you work with, or someone you play sports with, or someone on the streets you’ve never met, without seeming like a creep. You just can’t. And that’s because it is creepy, actually, and it’s creepy because there’s this technology called “flirting” which everyone knows about and is an expected and required lead-in to making a move. Think of flirting as a means of obtaining consent for a move.

Exceptions can be made in the following circumstances:

  1. You are being set up by mutual friends. So it’s already a date.
  2. You meet online at a dating website, so it’s already a date.

But even if the above things happen, and it’s “already a date,” I suggest you still diligently engage in the flirting phase anyway, because it’s still a great way of establishing mutual feedback, a non-creepy persona, and an atmosphere of lighthearted and sexy fun.

Wait, I hear you saying, how do I flirt so that it’s not creepy? How do I slowly but surely cross the spectrum from “friendly” to “sexy”?

So, when you encounter a woman you are attracted to, you are friendly, and you listen. You figure out what she likes, and what she likes about you. You do not think to yourself, “I am attracted to this women, when can I make a move?” but rather you think, “how do I know if she’s interested in me? what encouragement has she given me that she likes me, and what encouragement have I given her that I like her?”

Evidence of encouragement can be stuff like, in order of ambiguity (a very incomplete list!):

  1. she makes eye contact when you arrive and smiles
  2. she laughs at your jokes and asks you questions about yourself
  3. she touches your arm or hand when she talks to you
  4. she mentions she’s going somewhere and invites you to come along
  5. she sits on your lap and grinds

Flirting works kind of like a ladder, where you and the woman are both climbing it at the same time. If she is on the 4th rung, you should be on the 3rd, 4th, or 5th for you guys to stay close. If she goes one rung further than you, then you can keep up, and then even go one rung further yourself.

But by no means do you ever leave her behind on the ladder. Then she’d feel like, “Dude, I’m not keeping up with you, haven’t you noticed? Why aren’t you paying attention to where I am on this flirt ladder?” And you will come across as a creep. Creeps are people who aren’t paying attention to what the woman actually wants and are just barreling ahead based on what they want.

Does this all make sense? And, given this context, does it make sense that “making a move” on someone is almost always creepy? It’s basically like showing up at the top of the ladder. Maybe like stilts, except even less stable. And the woman is like, holy crap, you might fall right on top of my head and give me a concussion.

I hope this little story has helped. Now, go forth and flirt!


Aunt Pythia


Dear Aunt Pythia,

Re: the aunt pervert.

Another blogger I read got confused by the same sort of Google traffic and looked into it. Apparently it’s not incest, it’s that in India and Pakistan the word “aunt” is used in porn searches for older women the way people here might use “MILF”.

The blogger in question realized that his searches were coming from people who misspelled “auntie fuck” as “anti faq” and wound up on his Anti-Libertarian FAQ. No kidding. So unfortunately, a column by Aunt Pythia that mentions sex or boobs is going to get those kind of visitors…

Absurdly Understood Naughty Terminology

Dear AUNT,

I’m not complaining! But thanks, I do feel a bit better about it now that it’s less incestuous.

Auntie P


Dear Aunt Pythia,

Would you mind pointing me in the direction of resources for women in math trying to figure out how to be thoughtful about what it means to be a woman in math? (In addition to your blog, of course!)

I am a fourth year statistics and economics student at UVA, and I find myself increasingly desirous of things to read to help me articulate and name and talk about the challenges of being a lady in the math department.

As I have spent more and more time in math, there have been things that have happened that have made me upset, and I have struggled to articulate *why*. For example: I went to office hours for my probability class – maybe ~75% male, with a male professor – and there were four of my male classmates there as well. I asked a question, and immediately all five men responded with some version of “that’s a dumb/obvious question” in a please-don’t-waste-our-time-tone. I explained that they had misunderstood my question, that my question was really X not Y, and the professor kinda sorta answered X.

I left, very upset at what had just happened, but not being able to quite articular why. It would be natural to be upset if five people in general shut down my question. But what about how it had been five *men* did I find particularly offensive/upsetting?

Another example: A few weeks ago one of my (female) friends withdrew from our stochastic processes class, which had 4 women out of 22 students. For me this was a painful things to watch, but I again, I had difficulty saying why. She was a math major and withdrawing wouldn’t change that.

What was wrong? Was it that it felt so avoidable, that if things had gone so slightly differently I knew she would have stayed (and so this wasn’t even about gender at all)? Was it that I’ve watched the number of women in my math classes decrease with every successive class I’ve taken, and here I was watching this war of attrition happen before my eyes? She’s happy, so why am I upset?

Another: Until this semester I have never had either a female professor or TA in any economics, statistics, math, or CS class. I’m a fourth year, so I’ve taken a lot of classes aka had lots of opportunity to have had a female instructor in my field. I have yet to successfully explain why that’s hard – not just philosophically too bad, but hard – to my friends. Or to successfully communicate *how* that hard-ness presents itself. Sometimes I think the things that upset me maybe shouldn’t upset me, or that I’m seeing ghosts where there are none.

That math is just really hard, and it’s hard and even lonely for everyone, and that men/everyone experiences the same thing. I don’t know how to respond to that devil’s advocate in my head, or how to think well about that either. I would love your advice on what to read and where to go to learn how to coherently articulate my thoughts and frustrations in this arena. Especially because I only have room in my schedule to take either abstract algebra or a feminism class next semester, and I would really like to take the math class AND have the intellectual resources to think well about these things.


Woman Here In Math Seeking Intellectual & Constructive Assistance, Legitimately (WHIMSICAL)


I don’t know whether to be offended that you needed to spell out your sign-off for me. I supposed I deserve it, sometimes in the past I’ve missed some really good ones. Apologies to all those Aunt Pythia contributors!!

Here’s the thing. I think you’re already miles ahead of where I was at your age, because of two things. First, you’ve figured out what’s bothering you. I remember not knowing why I was upset, but simply bursting out in tears every now and then. It was bewildering.

Second, you’ve found my blog! And I’m so glad about that! One of the major goals of my blog is to be here for you.

Now, here’s the bad news. I don’t really have too much in the way of concrete advice for you. I’ll do my best though, here goes:

  1. I’d also be sad to see that woman go, and I’d also be confused as to why. I feel that way whenever I see women leave math, even though I myself left. But of course I don’t regret that I left, and I’m much happier now, so it doesn’t make sense at the individual level to feel sorry for a woman who chose to do something else.
  2. Maybe we’re both just feeling bad for math’s culture itself, that it can’t seem to get itself together to be a welcoming place for all these wonderful women. I’m sorry for you, math culture. And I’m not sure you can hear me, or what you’d say if you could answer me, but believe me you’re missing out on some majorly wonderful people by being so difficult.
  3. Having said that, the underlying math, the actual math questions and riddles and puzzles, is awesome, and when it’s just you and it, and the rest of the culture is shut out, then it can be magical.
  4. About the men: they are dumb, immature, and asinine. Including the professor. But not everyone is like that. So my advice here is: seek out men and women who are not like that, and figure out how to do math with them.
  5. I remember being in Victor Guillemin‘s MIT math grad class on differential geometry. He is so nice, and the math was super beautiful. There was this really badly off man who would come to the class, maybe he was homeless, and he’d ask bizarre and unrelated questions. Guillemin would, without fail, figure out a way to turn it into a really good question and would quite gallantly and kindly answer it, ending with something sincere like, “thanks so much for asking that!” Love that guy, and love how consistently elegant he made that potentially disastrous situation.
  6. Which is to say, we all have something to strive for. In your story above, the least we could expect from the professor is an honest answer to the question he thought you were asking, and we didn’t even get that. Lame.
  7. So, my advice to you is, trade up. Spend time with the people who are closer to Guillemin and further away from those people. And if that’s momentarily impossible, make do but keep in mind that there are better ways to run a culture, and that when you’re in charge you’ll see to it that it does get better.
  8. So when you’re a professor, you will never ridicule a question because it might end up being much deeper than you expect and after all math is really hard and sometimes we have brain farts and that’s ok too. Make your worst case scenario that you never humiliate anyone or call into question their basic dignity, and you’ll be rising the level of discourse by a mile and a half.
  9. Find women in math, at conferences and whatnot, and make friends. A little commiseration goes a long way.

Good luck!

Aunt Pythia


Dear Aunt Pythia,

Four-plus years after #OWS, I find myself within sight of a reputable liberal arts degree in both Politics and Economics, facing an uncertain job-market just over the horizon. So far, I feel like I’ve chosen well, trying to make sense of the financial system through an interdisciplinary lens. I have read a lot of the post-crisis canon, in hopes of new directions to pursue. I found your blog years ago following the Frontline feature, and was struck by mathbabe’s candor (No one understands the ‘whole financial system’) and quantitative rigor. As for my own skills, I’m good at compiling and interpreting research, written exposition, and creative analysis. I have some training in econometrics, but it’s definitely not my forte. I’ve done a couple of legislative internships, but I’m more and more certain that I need to pivot to a finance-related position or institution.

Grad school seems a remote possibility for the future, but right now I want to chart a course in the direction of economic journalism or policy analysis. I have major qualms about finance’s ability to confront long-term risk and deliver sustainable growth. Someday, I’d love to contribute to a prominent publication or think-tank, and help to craft the financial reforms we urgently need. (Stop me, please, if you see more effective ways to intervene for someone with my background). If you see fit, I am eager to hear which organizations you think are making the most progress, or what roles a newly-minted grad could hope to play therein.

So far, I’ve researched numerous SRI/ESG-based firms, government regulators (especially those agencies empowered by Dodd-Frank), industry monitors like FINRA, and even mission-oriented banks, CDFIs, B-corp lenders, and the like. I have yet to explore consulting or other professional services in as much depth. Is there a phylum that I’m neglecting here? Do you have any specific suggestions? I also wonder: if you or others in the Alt-Banking community knew as undergrads what you knew now, what organizations or roles would you have striven for?

Thanks for your consideration.

Curious About Robust Economic Empowerment & Risk Strategies


Thanks for the question. It’s a tricky one. One of the things that finance successfully does as a field is to make itself seem impenetrable for people not on the inside. At the same time, it’s an absolute requirement of a working modern economy. So there you have it, only insiders can penetrate and understand it, it has to exist and be healthy, and yet insiders are often corrupt (even when they don’t know they are).

So part of me doesn’t want you to go into field at all, because it kind of stinks. But on the other hand, the other effect that’s making things worse is that only money-grubbing jerks ever do go in. So, in the name of not wanting the field to be entirely overwhelmed by such people, I will in fact encourage you to go in, keeping your eyes open of course.

What I suggest is to get a job at a big bank and think of it as a sociological experiment, a la Karen Ho’s Liquidated. Then maybe go work for regulators or something. Honestly I know it sounds terrible – I’m suggesting you be part of the revolving door problem, but I don’t think it makes sense to be a financial regulator without actually having experience in finance.

Readers, weigh in if you have other ideas for CAREERS.

Good luck, and keep in touch!

Aunt Pythia


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  1. ttoot
    November 14, 2015 at 8:47 am

    I think he meant that two times a woman showed interest in him and that once it was a student so it wasn’t possible to act on it and once it was a false alarm.


    November 14, 2015 at 12:27 pm

    I never flirted with or tried to hit on the student in my class. As you say, that would be completely inappropriate.

    It would be nice if things worked as in your description of flirting, but in fact I am already trying to behave as you describe. That is what I meant by “approach”, and that is what women tell me they consider improper. It doesn’t work because women who “make eye contact when [I] arrive and smile” and “laugh at [my] jokes” have only a friendly interest in me, not a romantic or sexual one. (Given that opposite-sex relationships exist, I assume that this isn’t true of other men.) Any attempt on my part to advance things even the least bit beyond that level is instantly and often angrily rejected, and waiting for women to go beyond it is futile.

    So, my conclusion from your advice is that women are not attracted to me and do not want me to do or say anything that indicates that I am attracted to them. That’s what I already believed, but thanks for confirming it.


    • November 14, 2015 at 9:11 pm

      Have you tried the online dating sites? (“You meet online at a dating website, so it’s already a date.”) It seems like that opens up so many more possibilities, and a much greater opportunity to be clear and straightforward about one’s intentions, than we had in the past. Seems like a great resource.


      • ASHAMED
        November 15, 2015 at 12:29 am

        Yes, I have. That way does avoid losing existing friends or acquaintances, and it helps to know that the women on the sites are looking for a relationship (or at least that I have good reason to think so), but it doesn’t change the fact that women aren’t attracted to me. I can send messages on dating sites and sometimes get replies, but most of them lose interest when they see a picture, and the rest as soon as they meet me.


        • November 15, 2015 at 1:49 pm

          I sympathize because I’ve totally been there; I was an unkissed nerd until I was close to 30. At that point I said “fuck it; it’ll never happen” and just committed to being really amazing and passionate at my job, and not even thinking about romantic prospects. And then within a year I had multiple lovely women from work asking to hang out with me. I really wasn’t prepared for it, and I made some dumb mistakes because of that.

          So one thing I wish I could send to my past self is that success and confidence really is always sexy (and be prepared for the difference). Whatever it is you get satisfaction from, focus on that, and maybe zen out on the romance thing and let go of it, at least for a little while.

          I think if you’re on Tinder, then the very first thing someone sees is the photo? Use that and get the filtering process out of the way up front before you spend time messaging someone. Mercilessly cut stuff that’s making you depressed. You deserve to be really happy!


    • Hedgehog
      November 16, 2015 at 5:42 pm

      Mathbabe/Pythia really helped me understand what “flirting” is. Until now I had understood it primarily as a kind of amusing banter one might engage in with someone one isn’t really attracted to. Obviously I’d never do that with anyone I really was attracted to, because in order to banter, I couldn’t really care how the other person perceived me. I could never relax enough to banter with anyone I was actually attracted to.

      Instead, I now learn that “flirting” is a process of small displays of interest in the other person, and looking for small matching displays by the person of interest. Like giving someone small inexpensive gifts and hoping to get a similar gift in return. It is a kind of mating display, but not one that puts you, or the person you like, in the costly or risky position of having to reveal things about oneself that might not be so attractive (such as what happens when one make one’s desires overly explicit to someone who does not, or does not yet, reciprocate, which is perceived as “creepy”). Flirting, then, takes time, but avoids risks. (Unlike “bad boy” or “bad girl” styles, which are lots of fun but risky, or speed dating which is low risk and fast.)

      But there’s a missing piece in this. Mathbabe/Pythia describes this as something happening in a shared “orbit” or “native environment.” Where is that? It can’t be at work or some shared hobby or sports activity, as Mathbabe/Pythia explains.

      Instead, this must be the fictional dogwalking scene beloved by romantic comedy writers. (Usually it’s in Central Park.) Now you just have to get a dog and walk it in the park where you’ll share the “orbit” of some woman you want to meet, and then you’ll just “run into” that special someone!

      That reminds me of some advice a close friend gave me. He is tall, successful (in several careers), very confident, very manly, as well as progressive, feminist, and married. All the things I’m not, except the progressive part. He suggested that I could wander around where the woman on whom I had a crush at the time might be encountered, and “accidentally” run into her. I thanked him for the advice. But really if I had done that that, she would have thought, “What’s he doing here? I hope he’s not going to bother me.”

      But perhaps if flirting is done well, (I’m beginning to understand) then maybe it is possible that by the time someone reveals a lot about himself or herself, the other person will have discovered something attractive about you, which he or she would not otherwise have found.

      Yet there has to be a shared “orbit” first. That’s not easy. (Except in the movie version of Central Park!) The romantic relationships in my life all depended on the existence of “orbits” that don’t exist any more. That’s why people use dating websites or join religions. Also, I don’t like dogs.


      • November 16, 2015 at 6:39 pm

        I’d actually soften those rules myself. I flirted with someone at “work” – which was grad school for me – and we’re married, after all. I just think you have to be even more careful about not getting too ahead on the ladder when you’re around people who you’ll have to continue to see and work with even if the flirting goes nowhere.


  3. November 14, 2015 at 5:07 pm

    WHIMSICAL, maybe one place to start would be looking for a community of women doing math beyond your university. Do you belong to the Association for Women in Math? Have you ever been to a women-only math program, such as the Carleton summer program, the women’s program at the IAS, or Nebraska’s conference for undergraduate women in math? Have you looked into EDGE?


  4. November 14, 2015 at 5:51 pm

    I haven’t, but I will definitely look into those things! Thank you for telling me about them.

    I think I was/am looking not just for communities, but most specifically for things to read to help with ‘how to think about this issue, how to analyze it, how to name what my feelings are telling me in more precise terms so that others can understand– and so I can understand too, and not feel like I am seeing ghosts’ – as my political theory professor put it to me when I talked to her about this.
    That same professor recommended reading Sharon Krause’s new book, Freedom Beyond Sovereignty, and I plan to do so.


  5. JSE
    November 15, 2015 at 12:44 pm

    “Also, that a man shouldn’t approach a woman at a recreational activity (sports team, crafts, class, etc), because if she says no she might feel uncomfortable or scared and feel forced to drop out of the activity. One shouldn’t approach a woman at work, because that implies not taking her seriously as a professional. And approaching a close friend risks ruining the friendship.”

    You are leaving out the all-important category of NOT-CLOSE friends. Including friends of friends. In my age group (i.e. people who mostly coupled off before you could order a hookup on your phone like a pizza) this was the predominant way of finding people to date.


  6. Emmett
    November 15, 2015 at 12:57 pm

    Whimsical and getting shut down during questions:
    This issue almost caused me to fail out of my undergrad and I literally had to look at the consequences of crashing out of my one shot at college contrasted with publicly humiliating myself.
    I thought I was the only one seriously struggling with a required class and a fellow student, in retrospect clearly misplaced in the class, was answering all questions in a completely dismissive fashion. And the instructor was letting him.
    So week three into a ten week class and I do not get any part of the subject which drove me to the desperate scene.
    I picked a question on last weeks work, lobbed it up to the instructor with my speech in hand and ready: and nerdy boy who had to be right answered my question with why I should have known that.
    I turned red, I stuttered, I couldn’t control my voice and made myself say to the instructor what I had had to write down beforehand: “If you keep letting him shut down questions in this class I am going to fail.”
    And then I looked at my desk and tried not to lose it. I was 30 years old at the time and convinced I was the only dumbass in the room. I was a father of three, a husband, a professional in my field. For those few minutes I was about six and had pooped myself in kindergarten.
    The room slowly broke into clapping, dumbass never opened his mouth again, and we got seven weeks of pretty good back and forth. And I caught up and did pretty well.
    Just writing this I still experience the same emotions of inadequacy, poor performance and shame I felt then – but I learned a lot about roles and human behavior in those ten minutes that have served me well for decades:
    1. Professors and other experts are as lazy sometimes as the rest of us.
    2. Some ass is always going to screw up everyone else’s experience IF ALLOWED.
    3. If I don’t get it, someone else doesn’t get it too. But that means two of us can’t do our job unless something is done.


    • November 15, 2015 at 10:30 pm

      Great story, thanks for sharing. Writing stuff down before the interaction has tremendous power.


  7. November 15, 2015 at 8:31 pm

    WHIMSICAL- Check out the Women in Stats conference, to be held next October. https://www.amstat.org/meetings/wsds/2016/index.cfm
    There is a wonderful of young, feminist and engaged female-identified statisticians emerging. We’d love to have you!


    • November 16, 2015 at 8:43 am

      Super cool! Thanks for sharing. I hope I will be able to come, and I am glad that exists.


  8. PMP
    November 16, 2015 at 5:47 am


    After I had changed my career away from pure mathematics, I came across a blog called beingawomaninphilosophy.wordpress.com which I read in its entirety. This was a cathartic experience: it was only me who had these issues, it was not only mathematics, and it gave me words to describe my experiences as a mathematician. There are lots of anecdotes that are probably not relevant to you, but there are also the important ones. My favourite is a story by someone who started to play hangman during seminars, drawing a stroke every time the speaker was interrupted. All the women seminar speakers were executed, while men were not. The sample sizes were smallish, about 30, but this story resonated with me.


  9. kimballmartin
    November 16, 2015 at 7:02 pm

    WHIMSICAL, you might be interested in the AWM mentor network:
    Probably they would try to pair you with a grad student or postdoc in your field (though maybe a professor) whom you are encouraged to communicate with regularly and you can discuss issues both relating to gender and not. Not all mentors are female, but you can request one.


  10. Liz
    December 10, 2015 at 1:44 am

    Commenting to say, maths departments not full of men do exist, I happen to have fallen into one. Well, enrolled? into one.

    I am an Honours Student at UniSA in Australia (starting a phd mid next year) and last semester we had a class of all women (only 5 of us, but we have a very small student cohort in maths) with a woman lecturer. I just realised we also had the same thing this semester. Our honours year only has women students, the lone undergraduate man decided to go play computer games for a year.

    Some of my favourite lecturers are men, and some of the annoying sexist lecturers here are women.

    It is nice to have a role model to aspire to who fits into your gender though, so I understand your distress.

    Long and the short of it, come to UniSA – we’ve got plenty of women 😛


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